Matt's Aunt Barbara arrived today from California. Aunt Carla from Maine was here last week. For those of you who know Matt, his two aunts are nurses with training and education that would qualify them to help in any medical situation. This is one of those things where they know what the possible outcomes of Matt's condition and where it becomes a toss up of what to share with their baby sister. Do they prepare me for the possibilities and have me scared shitless or help me on a day to day basis just to understand the meaning of having a head trauma?
Each day I learn more and more of what having a bruised brain means. All these are kinda of "it might be this way or turn out that way," finding nothing is written in stone on head trauma and each case is different.
Matt's demeanor sometimes reminds me of a manic person. Talks fast, nonstop. His memory is greatly effected. Having to have an alarm on him to stop him from getting out of bed without proper supervision to prevent injuries, in his mind, has now included them nailing the windows shut to stop him from leaving.
As much as I am learning here, his friends have to be as aware and concerned as we are. I don't want to make it sound like Matt has gone crazy. He has a head injury which affects his cognitive things on all levels. This is a curable condition where time is the cure. We are looking at six months to a year before Matt is his old self but it has been explained to me, it will be the same old Matt but there may be some changes to his personality. We will have to wait and see.
Today seemed to be the day that he realized some of his odd thinking and behavior were not normal and was very confused. I can now see where some of the therapies they are suggesting are not an option but a necessity.
Matt has told me more in the last few days of each of his friends and it makes me see just how important friends are in a persons life. I would hate to see him lose friends just because they don't understand what is happening to him or choose to stay away because they are frightened of what he is like now. Just know, what he is saying is his perception what is going on, what he remembers. Doesn't mean its right, its just how he sees or remembers something. If you have any doubts or concerns about what he is saying, call me or his Dad.
I worry my posts say too much about Matt's condition and yet worry it is not enough. My stupidity was when they told me he had some light swelling on the brain that I thought it would be healed and gone away by the time the broken bones heal. There's a reason I am not a nurse. This is one. I wish I would have known and understood earlier but not knowing is what has kept me sane since this freak accident occurred. What will be will be. My job now is going through the coming months with him and do my best to love and support him in anyway I can. I ask his friends to do the same.
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